Originally Posted on October 22, 2012 by Dr. Gail Feldman
1. Ask: What is the Challenge? The Opportunity? Our most profound learning comes from handling crisis situations and fear. Write down the fears — What’s the worst that can happen? What’s the best thing that could come from this? What does your head say about how to proceed? Your heart? Your Soul? Reflect on your answers. Trust yourself. Know your inner Wisdom will guide you and maybe even lead you to a greater life purpose.
2. Remember the 40% factor: From Positive Psychology research we know that only 10% of what leads to happiness or unhappiness comes from events. Fifty percent is genetic. So even if you have the “cup-half-empty” gene, you get at least 40% of life to exercise positive choices! List all the choices that have brought you to your current successes; then add your achievements. Over the next week, do special things to acknowledge yourself and consistently exercise optimistic thinking, the quality that characterizes resilient people.
3. Use Grief Relief: Change is constant, and the way we cope with it is through grief. Because humans strive for the familiar and comfortable, denial and disbelief are often our first response to loss or disappointment. Feel your painful feelings. As you focus your full attention on these feelings, you allow them to dissolve. Welcome peaceful acceptance in their place.
4. Go from Job to Calling. Do you view your work as a job- something that brings money and some benefits, but also burdens that put you on edge? Reframe your work as your calling. Resilient people create their work as meaningful and fulfilling, recognizing the strengths they bring and the contribution they make. Declaring your work as your calling honors your gifts, greatness and leadership, and allows for passion.
5. Declare your Essence and Intention. What you think and speak usually manifest. Declare who you are for yourself and the world. Speak your essence and intention each day. This morning I declared, “Who I am for myself and for the world is Health, Joy and Abundance.” Now it’s your turn.