Originally Posted on January 16, 2012 by Dr. Gail Feldman
It’s time to revisit our new year’s resolutions and make them a “revolution,” an evolution toward our life dreams- put some muscle, some powerful intention to them! Assuming you haven’t already achieved all of the goals and aspirations for your life, now’s the time to find your boldness of purpose and let the Universe know that you’re ready to be a “kick-ass,” make-things-happen person coming from a huge, brave heart.
There might be a few things to overcome first, so find the courage to grieve, so that you can grow beyond past disappointments. Write a letter of reconciliation to the person or situation that hurt you. Make sure you express all of your grievances, resentments- every bit of anguish. Then burn the letter and as it goes up in smoke know that you are freeing yourself from the prison of the past. In ancient Aramaic the word, “forgive” means “to untie a knot.” Forgiving yourself and others means that you release yourself from that tie.
From this space of freedom you can find the resilience, the energy to commit to your new goals and live from your values. Research shows that those who are most successful at achieving their new year’s resolutions are those who are completely committed to change and willing to reinforce their declarations with daily structured behaviors. Intention plus action = accomplishment. So create two to three actions each day that will move you forward in your life and find a “promise partner” or an “accountability partner,” who will help you stay on track with what you have affirmed you truly desire to produce in your life.
Maintain your confidence by visioning your inner flame, the “fire in the belly” that fuels your drive to achieve your heart’s desire. Reinforce this flame by expressing gratitude for all that you already have and reward yourself along the way for accomplishing any part of your goal. Let your inner fire burn brightly- and be optimistic. Optimism can add two years to the longevity of your life!